Anger Management

What is Anger Management Therapy?

Anger management therapy is the practice of learning to curtail bouts of excessive anger, rage and even violence.  The patient adopts methods of checking their own mood and preventing it from exacerbating to an explosive point.  Anger does not always involve outbursts or violence.  It can also manifest in a more passive, yet equally harmful, episode where unchecked anger dictates hostile behavior.  Anger management techniques can be very beneficial in relationships, the workplace and any situations of stress that might have prompted hostileThe Cloud of Anger responses in the past.

Everyone is entitled to their anger.  Our means of presenting it will determine how others respond to it or work with us to resolve the conflict.  When handled improperly, excessive anger can do permanent damage to any relationship or family.  When communicated properly, anger can serve to enhance positive patterns and improve relationships.

Strategies for Anger Management

As a Certified Anger Management Specialist, I am trained in cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques that can help an individual or group identify triggers for anger and rage and replace them with more accepted and effective means of expression.

But, what are ways of being effective without being forceful?  Learning to express one’s anger in a more engaging manner, rather than one that frightens or punishes, makes room for the other person or persons to respond in kind and increase the potential for understanding and a resolution to the conflict.  Learning to speak calmly and from the perspective of how you feel is more effective and engaging than global, angry statements. Speaking softly can keep the conversation going.  Shouting or violence invites a similar response and can escalate into fighting.

When a young child is angry at their parent, you might here them shout “I hate you!”.  They might really mean, ”I want ice cream and you’re making me take a nap.” The child may not have the ability to fully process and present their objection.  On the other hand, an adult has the ability to do so; yet “I hate you!” or something else even more hurtful may still come out.

So, “alternatives to anger” can mean better self-representation through a more acceptable presentation”.  It can also mean taking a walk, going to the gym or calling a friend when one is angry rather than engaging in hurtful, harmful behavior.

 

Courage is also the willingness to abandon the idea that we have been

cheated or deprived, and that somehow, we will and must be repaid.  

~ Peter C. Turco

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